Guy A loves to make friends, anywhere.
One day, he got himself into trouble by speaking too much to a girl who was supposedly attached and the other friends were unhappy about it. the poor girl, had no choice but to go along with friends and labelled guy A a flirt. Guy A knowing that he was innocent but did not want to kick up a fuss, swallowed his pride and allowed them to shoot hurl hurtful remarks at him. they basically kicked up a big fuss about the whole matter.

a) what do you think of the girl?
b) how do you feel about her friends? are they really friends or foes?
c) did guy A do the right thing to remain silent? why?


a) Looking at the situation, the girl may have enjoyed chatting to guy A for some reason. but backed out when her friends knew about it. these clearly showed that for the sake of SAVING FACE,the girl was selfish enough to save herself but kill the pride and reputation of someone else, be it a friend or stranger, it was an act of SELF-CENTEREDNESS. she was prepared to see someone else suffer by being labelled a flirt which was obviously untrue than to stand up for him although it might lose her reputation among her friends. to add on, she was evil enough to join in the "fun" of verbally abusing guy A.
however, if the scenario is that the girl didnt enjoy talking to him. why bother to talk further? shouldnt she be firm to cut short the conversation and not carry on further, attracting unnecessary gossips. it was plain silly of the girl to join in with her friends and make a big "hoo-haa" out of such a tiny matter,which didnt much seem like a problem. what will she and her friends get out of this? fame? yes, they will be known to all as a bunch of reasonable, overreacting sucker for attention.

b)TRUE friends will do whatever it takes to get their friend out of trouble safe and sound. my definition of "safe and sound" is, NOT attracting unwanted attention from the public,etc. honestly, if they were really her friends. they would not have intervened the situation by blowing the "problem" even bigger than before, unless they wanted a share in fame by being known as the "true friends stand together". that was not wise at all.


c) having the love to make new friends isnt a bad thing. but the line is drawn between making good or bad friends. guy A shld have gotten his facts right about the girl and her background before going in depth into the conversation. he should have also observe the way the girl replies him so as to have a clue whether the girl is interested in the conversation with him or not.
it was wise of him to ignore while the girl and her friends hurl insults at him, like wild dogs barking in the woods. why stoop so low at their level? theres no point arguing with a bunch of wild dogs as you know, they'll never get it for they speak a "different language".







making friends WISELY is the most important factor in our lives as it is a daily occurance which will determine our future in the long run.